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When London Bridge Falls Down

Trust is everything in a relationship. It’s what keeps hope alive. It’s what helps
you keep holding on to ideals like that it’s okay to put it all on the line. It
helps you find this unexplained comfort among you and a person. It’s what helps
make sense of things, that voice of reason. It’s this invisible bridge that has
to be built, maintained, taken care of, but most of all never taken for
granted.

Like any bridge, it can take blows. You can hit the median many times but it won’t
break to pieces just because. It takes a certain amount of pressure to find its
point of weakness before it ever feels like you’ll fall off the edge.

A relationship is no different. Most of us are good at taking blows. We don’t
fall off our hinges at the sight of a blow. But even when it happens we are
quick to re-enforce, re-build, re-structure. We have to. It’s the only thing
that keeps us going. That’s not to say that it’s easy, it’s not. It’s work. At
times we must put up our “Work ahead” signs. And even announced to our loved
ones that “fines are up to twice their price” in the new route. It’s our way of
re-routing instead of declaring a Dead End.

There are some things you rely on. Like a sure bet. But when they let you down it
makes the ground beneath you shake -right where you stand. And you are never
the same again. The problem is that once you’ve been hurt no matter how much
you want to turn the other cheek – you can’t help but flinch when you do. You
know it’s happened, you’ve felt the pain. Now it’s just a matter of when and
how you’ll handle it when it happens once more.
Doubt creeps in from all corners making you feel restless and on guard at all times. The
truth is that the foundation of the relationship has been damaged. And doubt is
like a thin crack on a wall. It appears small at first, repairable, but let it
run down a wall and it causes an inevitable split in its course.
It takes serious commitment to work through things. To let down our pride and
accept our mistakes. The only way to find success will be by re-enforcing,
re-building, and re-structuring. Realizing the true value of that person in
your life and not taking for granted the opportunity you’ve been given.

Life will throw at you many things. It will create wounds that can stretch deep and
long. But as human as we possibly are it doesn’t change the fact that we can
recover, recuperate, built up again. But you just have to be willing to take a
chance. If you invest wisely the pay off might just surprise you. And even if
you don’t succeed you must realize that even the biggest failure beat the hell
out of never trying…

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